Molly Ward is a Texas mother, wife and certified financial planner. With nearly three decades of financial planning experience, she focuses her practice on helping women achieve financial independence and live up to their financial potential.
An advisor with Equitable Advisors in Houston, Texas, Ward’s been helping her clients navigate their way through the COVID-19 crisis. She’s got some solid advice for how to lower your financial stress level.
Here are six questions that we’ve gotten from women who read The Penny Hoarder — and Molly Ward’s answers.
1. How Can I Prepare for Life’s Difficulties?
Q: Life has its inevitable derailments and obstacles: We take care of our aging parents; we have health concerns; deaths in the family; experience disabilities and often, women live longer than men. How can we prepare, financially?
A: “I have seen so many brilliant businesswomen and hardworking moms unnecessarily suffer when they experience life’s inevitable difficult seasons,” Ward says. “If a woman is proactive and thoughtfully and thoroughly prepared, she can change the course of her life and her family’s.”
Ward notes that women typically take more time out of careers to take care of loved ones — kids, husbands, aging parents. Also, women tend to live longer than men. Due to longevity and fewer earning years, a woman must:
- Save more.
- Acquire insurance on herself and possibly her spouse, and perhaps long-term care insurance on her parents.
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2. How Do I Invest?
Q: My husband recently passed away, and he took care of all the investing. What do I do?
A: “Start with a realization that investing comes after planning,” Ward says. “Investing without a plan is like driving on a trip without a map.”
She recommends talking to a financial planner. When it comes to investing, Ward stresses long-term planning and logic versus focusing on the hot stock of the day or the political climate. Those will pass.
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3. Why Do I Feel Out of Control?
Q: Why do I feel out of control with my money?
A: “Taking control of your finances should be a priority,” Ward says. “You wouldn’t knowingly leave your child’s college decision, or even your next summer vacation to chance. So why would you leave your financial future up in the air?
“Managing your own personal finances and investments requires a completely different emotional muscle, one that is often paralyzed by any number of experiences that can cause you to make easily avoidable mistakes — including the biggest mistake: Doing nothing at all.”
To assess your finances, Ward recommends making a list of all your assets and investments, along with any recurring payments or debts.
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4. How Else Can I Take Control?
Q: What else can I do to take control of my finances?
A: “Goal-setting may sound trite, but it’s an excellent starting point toward gaining control of your finances and your future,” Ward says. “Discussing and stating your short- or long-term plans for your life help you understand what financial goals you should set.”
“Financial assessment, goal setting and budgeting should become something you do out of habit — like brushing your teeth, giving your dog his flea medicine, scrolling through Instagram. Making these steps part of your monthly routine will bring a sense of control and order to your life.”
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5. How Should I Leave an Inheritance?
Q: I’m going to be leaving an inheritance to my children. How do I make sure there is peace amongst them after I die?
A: “When it comes to passing down wealth and last wishes, I’ve witnessed success and sadly, on the other hand, I’ve seen feuds and litigation,” Ward says. “The negative outcomes tend to happen when there is either too much complication or at the other extreme, complete lack of planning. An internet legal document is not sufficient!
“Sometimes there is a ‘problem asset’ — for example, a piece of property that has emotional attachment. Along with poor planning, such as an unclear title or problems with a deed, emotions are high following the death of the guiding force of a parent. Feelings can get hurt, which can create a hotbed of controversy and fighting among the children.
“Thoughtful communication, in which the parent’s important values are discussed is key. Estate planning should be completed and regularly reviewed. Sometimes, hiring a trust company to be named executor or trustee of the estate can help keep the peace. When given to a family member, the executor or trustee role can often be a thankless job that comes with liability and creates unnecessary turmoil in the family.”
6. Why Do My Spouse and I Disagree About Money?
Q: My spouse and I disagree about money. Why?
A: “It might have something to do with your embedded money scripts,” Ward says. “Your money memories — those embedded in you by parents and or grandparents — highly influence your financial success or struggles.”
“In fact, many experts believe our habits and views surrounding money were formed as children watching our parents and other adults with it. After you learn what yours are, have a peaceful discussion with him/her about money scripts to see where each other are coming from.”
“Also, planning when you are in love and things are going well is a great time to talk about your incomes, assets and debts. Truthful conversations about money at the beginning will serve you well later!”
Mike Brassfield ([email protected]) is a senior writer at The Penny Hoarder.