Manifestation practices—or rather, the routines and rituals you can use to turn your thoughts into reality—can luckily be done anywhere. But as someone who has a soft spot for interiors and is hyper-aware of her surroundings (I am a home and living writer after all!), I believe that your living space plays a crucial part in supporting your dreams. Whether you live in a tiny dorm room or your very own dream home, your environment can help keep you focused, calm, and positive—which is key to achieving your goals.
To learn more about the link between our homes and manifestation, I chatted with manifestation expert Haley Hoffman Smith, and her tips are sure to get your creative ideas flowing. If you’re ready to level up your living space, here’s how to make sure your home supports your ideal lifestyle and the best version of you.
1. Start with gratitude and appreciation.
“You can manifest anywhere at any time, and so much of it is about appreciating where you are,” Hoffman Smith said. Practicing gratitude for what you already have is a huge part of manifestation, and if you’re struggling with where to begin, start with the roof over your head. Even if you’re not living in your dream home (yet!), focus on the things you love about your current space and express your appreciation for them. Whether you simply look around your space and make mental notes or write your thoughts down in a journal, having gratitude for your current home will help you stay positive and uplifted.
Hoffman Smith, for instance, moved into her dream New York City apartment a few years ago, but before that, she was living in a modest home in Colorado. “I focused so much on what I appreciated in that home and the fact that I had a home and a front door and that it provided safety and comfort,” Hoffman Smith said. Focusing on the positive attributes of your surroundings will help you stay in a high vibrational state, or in a state of contentment and peace, which makes you a magnet for whatever it is that you desire. As Esther Hicks, another manifestation expert, famously says, “As you think, you vibrate. As you vibrate, you attract.”
2. Know what your vision is, and keep it in sight.
Vision boards are a go-to practice for manifestation. While you can easily use your vision board as a phone background or laptop wallpaper, strategically placing images and positive affirmations around your home is another sneaky way to keep your vision in front of you. Consider displaying reminders of your vision on your fridge, the bathroom mirror, or your coffee table. “What matters most is having them someplace where you’ll see them all the time,” Hoffman Smith said.
For example, Hoffman Smith decorated her coffee table with a book on the Amalfi Coast, one of her favorite travel destinations. “It’s nice to be able to flip it open to a page and have it be like a vision board on my coffee table,” she said. This is great advice if you have a dream destination you’d like to visit—in addition to a coffee table book, you could also frame pictures of places on your bucket list.
Other easy ways to keep your vision in sight include placing sticky notes with positive affirmations around your home or using everyday items that remind you of your dreams. Hoffman Smith also has a collection of coffee mugs that all reflect things that make her happy. If you’re trying to manifest something specific (like a new job or a dream vacation), find a mug that has a design or words that relate to that goal and can help you imagine that it’s already a reality.
3. Maximize the space you have by keeping it tidy.
A clean, clutter-free home can help you stay focused and at ease as you work toward your goals. Even if your current space is less than ideal, keeping it tidy will help make the most of the space so it can best support your dream lifestyle. If there’s a room in your home that feels off even after cleaning and organizing, however, Hoffman Smith recommends rearranging the furniture. “If you’re about to embark on a new chapter of your life, or if the energy is just stagnant, shifting around the placements of certain things can really help,” she said. Keep rearranging until your space feels right.
4. Fill your home with things you love.
Additionally, be sure your home includes items that reflect your desires and passions. Adding beauty, like flowers for your kitchen table or art that inspires you, can have a big effect on your mood and make you feel like you’re already living your best life. For Hoffman Smith, seasonal decor helps her add joy to her space. “Changing things up with the seasons can make it feel really cozy,” she said. Consider this your sign to light a candle or hang those twinkly lights if those things make you happy. At the end of the day, manifestation is about keeping your vibration high, so be sure to sprinkle items throughout your space that bring you joy, no matter how small.
5. Set up your home for your morning and nighttime routines.
“Manifesting really comes down to the routines we do, such as meditation, gratitude, and journaling,” Hoffman Smith said, “and having a space for each in your home can help it become a ritual that you get used to and can look forward to.” Whatever you want your morning and evening routines to look like, create a dedicated space that supports those activities. If you like to start each day by journaling while you sip your morning tea, place your journal and a pen near your tea kettle and mugs. If you want to meditate each night before bed, outfit your bedroom with soft lighting and a meditation pillow. Creating the space for the routine will make it that much easier to settle into the habit, Hoffman Smith said.
6. Prepare your space for your ideal lifestyle.
Even if you don’t feel like you’re living your dream life yet, you can prepare your space for those dreams to become a reality. Does your future self like to host dinner parties? Spruce up your dining area, tidy up your kitchen, and gather up a few recipes you’d like to prepare for friends or family. Does your future self have a consistent meditation practice? Create a cozy meditation corner with a floor cushion and a small table for candles or an essential oil diffuser. By creating space for your goals, you can prepare yourself for all of the abundance that is no doubt already on its way to you.
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0:00:01 Introducing the Get Out of Deck Guy team 0:00:33 The Range of Emotions Caused by Debt 0:02:25 A Lively Discussion on Extravagant Spending 0:02:42 Women considering unconventional ways to pay off debt 0:07:06 Seeking advice outside of immediate circle of friends 0:10:13 Emotional Attachment to a Beloved Pet 0:12:39 The Impact of Depression on Decision-Making 0:17:31 The Magic Beanstalk Debt Validation Scam 0:19:19 Network Marketing: The Illusion of Passive Income 0:24:37 Credit Card Companies: You’re Just a Statistic 0:26:37 The Emotional Toll of Debt: Financial PTSD 0:32:16 A Solution to Financial Stress and PTSD 0:34:01 Facing the Reality of Financial Situation and Making Progress 0:38:52 Overcoming the Emotional Impact of Bankruptcy 0:42:47 Resources for Debt Relief and Support
Summary
In this episode, we explore the emotional impact of debt and how it affects individuals on a personal level. As hosts, we have witnessed firsthand the range of emotions that arise when people face financial struggles. One prevalent feeling is embarrassment, as clients often feel like failures when they openly confess their debt. We have also observed that some individuals, particularly women, have contemplated drastic measures like becoming escorts or prostitutes to pay off their debt. However, it’s crucial to emphasize that alternative solutions are available.
Embarrassment is a common emotion associated with debt, and many people want to keep their financial struggles a secret from loved ones. However, we highlight the fact that people are often too preoccupied with their own lives to be overly concerned about our debt. We encourage seeking support from someone outside our normal circle who won’t judge us. While feeling embarrassed about debt is normal, we should not let shame consume us. Unexpected events such as accidents or health problems can throw our financial stability off balance, and it’s essential to prioritize what truly matters.
Depression is another significant emotion that often accompanies financial struggles. We stress the importance of addressing mental health and seeking professional help to gain clarity and make better decisions. Controlling emotions is not as simple as telling someone not to be depressed, and jumping at quick-fix solutions or becoming paralyzed with analysis can worsen the situation. We caution against scams that prey on people’s vulnerability and offer false promises of immediate relief. Making informed decisions and seeking guidance is crucial.
In this episode, we also discuss the cynical perspective that banks and corporations profit off people’s emotional attachment to debt. We delve into the predatory practices of credit card companies and debt collection agencies, who often see borrowers as numbers and show little regard for their individual situations. Seeking support from hotlines or financial experts can help individuals understand the reality of dealing with debt and find effective solutions. We emphasize that banks and corporations should never be the top priority in anyone’s life.
Financial post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a common outcome for individuals who have lived through debt. We stress the importance of recognizing the symptoms, seeking support, and taking a break from overwhelming responsibilities to aid in recovery. Facing the truth of one’s financial situation is vital and can lead to smarter decision-making in the future. Technology has made tracking spending easier, eliminating the need for meticulous record-keeping of every small expense. It’s essential to understand that everyone’s financial situation is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution to debt.
We also share personal experiences in this episode. The main speaker discusses embracing their bankruptcy experience and being open about it, which helped gain trust from others. They also mention their friend Damon’s bankruptcy and how they saw it as a smart move rather than a judgment. The perception of bankruptcy has evolved over time, and now more people are open about their financial struggles.
The main speaker expresses frustration with the flawed student loan system, which has caused significant harm, especially to the middle class. They highlight the alarming ease with which people can obtain loans without fully considering the consequences. They urge listeners who are experiencing any of these negative emotions to seek help and support from resources like the DamonDay or getoutofdebt.org websites, as well as previous podcasts.
To conclude, the main speaker reminds listeners that emotions may not always accurately reflect reality. It’s important to take care of oneself and have a great day.
Steve Rhode is the Get Out of Debt Guy and has been helping good people with bad debt problems since 1994. You can learn more about Steve, here.
Landlords across the country have been empowered to act as a kind of police force in the name of crime prevention for decades. How? Through local “nuisance property” laws and “crime-free housing” programs that require them to evict tenants for vaguely defined “criminal activities.”
As of Monday, California became the first state in the nation to ban so-called crime-free housing programs. More states should follow suit.
Such laws target low-income and minority renters for eviction and violate their civil rights. That’s bad enough. But they also fail to reduce crime.
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Cities across the country have been implementing these policies for about 30 years, building on the Anti-Drug Abuse Act of 1988, which stepped up evictions in federally subsidized housing. By 2019, about 2,000 American cities had a crime-free housing program, and 37 of the 40 largest U.S. cities had a nuisance property ordinance.
Even as these policies spread, their efficacy was in doubt. I led a recent analysis of California’s crime-free housing policies that found they had no effect on crime. Other researchers have found that by driving people into desperation and homelessness, nuisance property ordinances may actually increase property crime.
Crime-free housing policies backfire partly because they treat 911 calls as an indicator of criminal activity. This creates a perverse incentive: For fear of being evicted, tenants don’t call authorities when they need them.
This particularly harms victims of domestic violence, who may hesitate to seek help from police lest they lose their housing. These policies can also dissuade tenants from seeking medical aid during drug overdoses or mental health crises. Evictions also hamper crime prevention by disrupting community social networks, making it harder for residents to monitor what’s going on in their neighborhoods — a critical element of crime prevention.
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My study of California found that city blocks with apartments certified as crime-free saw 21% more evictions than blocks without such housing. Other researchers have found that nuisance property ordinances increase eviction filing rates by 16%. In the six months after the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development instituted a “One Strike and You’re Out” policy on criminal activity in 1996, reported evictions from public housing surged 40%.
Evictions are deeply harmful in many ways. People who are evicted struggle to find housing again, and tenants removed from public housing are prohibited from receiving housing assistance. That can lead to more homelessness and desperation. Evictions also cause disproportionate housing insecurity for children, more unemployment, additional use of emergency room resources, and accidental drug and alcohol deaths.
Legal experts have argued persuasively that punishing people with eviction instead of through criminal justice procedures also denies them due process. These policies don’t require an arrest or conviction or even an indication of crime anywhere near the property. They don’t even require a crime.
People have been evicted under crime-free housing policies over kids playing basketball or jumping on a trampoline and because of complaints about barbecues. Tenants can even face severe consequences for the behavior of their guests. One federal court case concerns an Illinois city trying to evict a family because of a burglary committed by a friend of their teenage son who had slept on their couch.
The policies tend to be selectively enforced, with low-income, multifamily properties bearing the brunt. This has led the Department of Justice to take action against cities for violations of the Fair Housing Act and other federal laws. In 2022, the San Bernardino County city of Hesperia signed a consent decree with the federal government related to selective application of its crime-free housing program. Lawsuits have been filed on similar grounds against cities in Washington, Illinois, Pennsylvania and Minnesota.
What is the point of these harmful policies if they aren’t reducing crime? Public officials have suggested their real goal is segregation.
A Hesperia official acknowledged that the purpose of the city’s crime-free housing program was to remove what he described as “those kind of people” and “improve our demographic.” The mayor of Bedford, Ohio, said the city’s nuisance property ordinance was about taking “pride in middle-class values” and curtailing “urban immigration.” The analysis I led found that cities with crime-free housing programs had larger Black populations and that the affected apartments were on lower-income blocks with larger Black and Latino populations.
HUD has issued guidance to cities on how these policies may violate the Fair Housing Act by disproportionately evicting women, victims of crime and people with disabilities. But more needs to be done.
Following California’s lead, other states should limit evictions under these policies without an arrest or conviction or based on the behavior of nonresidents. Cities should also be required to report the number of evictions resulting from crime-free housing policies and nuisance ordinances. Similar federal policies also need reconsideration, including the one-strike policy for public housing and the rules that prevent evicted tenants from obtaining future housing assistance.
These policies and the evictions they cause are at best an ineffective means of preventing crime. At worst, they’re a harmful form of discrimination that leads to more crime and homelessness. Ending them could make all our communities safer.
Max Griswold is a policy researcher at the Rand Corp.
Where you live can play a major role in how enjoyable your retirement is. So, where do the happiest retirees reside? To determine which cities in the U.S. are the happiest places to retire, we studied the 200 largest metropolitan statistical areas (MSAs) using the latest U.S. Census Bureau population estimates, and consulted multiple sources, including the Sharecare Community Well-Being Index, Tax Foundation, Walk Score, Sperling’s Best Places, and County Health Rankings & Roadmaps.
By identifying key elements that contribute to happiness — social networks, financials, and health — and examining 13 pivotal rankings within them, such as community, cost of living, and healthcare access, we created the Happiest Places to Retire in the U.S. in 2024. Read on to learn about the 20 best places to retire in the U.S. to help you explore your options for where to live in retirement.
Key Findings on Retirees’ Favorite Cities
• Barnstable, MA is the happiest city to retire to, ranking #1 of all 200 cities we analyzed. It has the highest ranking overall for community well-being, and one of the highest percentages of residents who are 65-plus. The other cities at the top of the list: Naples, FL at #2, and Ann Arbor, MI at #3.
• Colorado has the highest number of happiest cities for retirees on our top 20 list, beating out Florida. Boulder, CO is the #5 happiest city for retirees, and Fort Collins and Denver also made the list.
• Colder climates are now attracting retirees. Three of our top 5 cities for retirement (Barnstable, MA; Ann Arbor, MI; and Boulder, CO) have average high winter temperatures in the 30s or 40s.
• Naples, FL residents live the longest. The city has the highest average life expectancy (86.1 years) of all 200 cities we analyzed.
• Ann Arbor, MI, has the lowest tax burden for retirees on our top 20 list, followed by Myrtle Beach and Charleston in South Carolina. Meanwhile, Akron, OH has the lowest cost of living of the top 20 cities for retirees, 80.8% of the U.S. average.
Top 20 Happiest Cities to Retire
Looking for information on the happiest places to live after retirement? Whether you dream of an ocean breeze or mountain views, you have plenty of cities to consider.
The top 20 happiest cities for retirees offer a broad range of activities, amenities, and resources. They’re also located all across the nation, as shown in this map of the top 10, so you can find a place in the part of the country you’d most like to live in.
1. Barnstable, MA
Coming in at the top of the happiest cities to retire in the U.S. list is Barnstable. Located on Cape Cod, its beachside beauty attracts retirees, making it one of the top three cities for residents 65 and up. While living here can be expensive (the median household income is $91,438) and there’s less access to healthcare than the other top contenders have, residents enjoy a high level of social interaction and plenty of entertainment and activities.
2. Naples, FL
Those who want to live by the water and enjoy warmer weather can head south to Naples. The cost of living in this city is fairly reasonable, and there’s no state personal income tax, which means your retirement savings can go a lot further. Naples also has the highest life expectancy (age 86.1) of all 200 cities we analyzed.
3. Ann Arbor, MI
Want to enjoy city life without the high prices? Ann Arbor, a college town, has plenty of big city amenities at an affordable price point. Another draw for retirees: Ann Arbor residents enjoy the highest level of healthcare access of the cities on our list, and ranks #1 for health overall.
4. Durham, NC
Friendship and social interaction are important in retirement. Durham, one of the top cities to retire in the U.S., offers a strong sense of community and social well-being, according to the data. Residents will find plentiful healthcare in Durham as well. It ranks #2 out of the top 20 for healthcare access.
5. Boulder, CO
If you like to hit the slopes, Boulder may be the ideal location for your retirement years. The city is #3 on the top 20 list for housing and transportation, so you should be able to find the right place to live and get around easily.
6. North Port, FL
North Port is the second Florida city to make the top 20 list of the happiest places to live in the U.S. Community and social connection is high here, and there’s a sizable population of those aged 65 and up, making it easier to meet new friends. It also has one of the lowest tax burdens among the top 20 cities.
7. Olympia, WA
Retirees who want to live affordably on the west coast can check out scenic Olympia, WA. It ranks as #1 in the financial category, which takes into account factors such as cost of living and household income. It’s also one of the best states to retire in for taxes, which can help retirees stretch their savings. Olympia has the lowest number of residents living below the poverty level of all 200 cities we analyzed.
8. San Jose, CA
Retirees in San Jose enjoy the second-highest average life expectancy (after Naples, FL) of the 200 cities we studied, making it one of the top places for a long and healthy retirement. But there’s a tradeoff: The cost of living in San Jose is extremely high: a whopping 231% of the U.S. average.
9. San Luis Obispo, CA
If being in a comfortable environment is one of your top retirement priorities, look no further than San Luis Obispo. Along with San Jose, the city scored the highest level of comfort for retirees on our top 20 cities list, thanks to its temperate weather.
10. Madison, WI
A low average cost of living plus a high median household income ($83,214) make Madison not only one of the happiest places to live in retirement, but also one of the most affordable. In this relatively walkable city, you can save on transportation costs and live a healthier lifestyle.
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11. Honolulu, HI
Honolulu combines great weather, pristine beaches, and big city living. It gets high scores for comfortable weather and transportation. And Honolulu has some of the highest scores for social factors and community. Retiring in paradise comes at a price, however — namely, the city’s high cost of living (171.5% of the U.S. average).
12. Salisbury, MD
Salisbury, in the Eastern Shore area of Maryland, is a popular place for retirees. More than a quarter of the population is 65 and over, which means you should have plenty of peers to socialize and do activities with.
13. Washington, DC
If you’re interested in history and culture, Washington D.C. might be a good fit. And many of the city’s major attractions are free of charge. The nation’s capital is also the most walkable city on our top 20 list of the happiest places to live after retirement, so you’ll save on transportation as you get your steps in.
14. Portland, ME
In this city on the coast, you can enjoy all that the ocean has to offer plus metropolitan amenities. Portland ranks as one of the best cities to retire in when it comes to community, and it also has abundant options for art, recreation, and entertainment, which can help you stay happily busy in retirement.
15. Myrtle Beach, SC
Retirees settle down in this popular travel destination to take advantage of the reasonable cost of living and low tax burden. They also love the miles of beaches, plentiful golf courses, and comfortable weather. Myrtle Beach has the 4th highest population of people age 65-plus.
16. Harrisburg, PA
The capital city of Pennsylvania is an affordable place to retire. It has a low cost of living, which means the city’s average median income of $73,739 can go farther. Fewer people live below the poverty line here than in many other cities. Retirees can be active here as well: Harrisburg ranks as #2 of our top cities when it comes to walkability.
17. Fort Collins, CO
If you love the great outdoors, this city, located at the foot of the Rocky Mountains, has a lot to offer. All those outside adventures come with some nice health perks: Fort Collins has one of the higher life expectancies of our 20 top cities for retirees.
18. Denver, CO
Where is the happiest place to retire? It might just be the state of Colorado. Denver is the third Colorado city to make the top 20 list of happy places for retirees to live. Denver has a high level of community and social well-being, which could make retirement a lot more fulfilling. It’s very walkable, too, coming in at #5 out of the top 20 in the walking category.
19. Akron, OH
With the lowest cost of living (80.8% of the U.S. average) of the 20 best cities, Akron offers retirees affordability plus many opportunities for social and community connection. That can make it easier to make new friends in retirement.
20. Charleston, SC
A vibrant cultural scene, great food, ocean access, and lovely architecture make Charleston one of the best places to retire in 2024. Charleston ranks #2 for art, recreation, and entertainment out of the 200 cities studied, following only Los Angeles, so you’ll find plenty to do here in your golden years. And the tax burden is one of the lowest on our 20 happiest cities list.
Best Places to Retire for a Happy Retirement
Want to consider some of the different places that could make for a very happy retirement? The map below shows the top five cities out of the 200 analyzed in each of the three key categories that contribute to happiness: social, financial, and health.
200 Cities Studied for Happiest Places to Retire
Reviewing the full list of 200 cities studied for the Happiest Places to Retire can reveal additional great options for retirement. For example, following Naples, FL, the next three cities with the highest life expectancy — San Jose, CA, San Francisco, CA, and New York, NY — are all bustling, well-populated cities that also rank highly for community and social factors. Take a look at what cities across the U.S. have to offer.
Overall Rank
City
Total Score
Social rank
Financial Rank
Health Rank
1
Barnstable, MA
62.05
1
6
120
2
Naples, FL
61.43
2
18
32
3
Ann Arbor, MI
61.40
64
14
1
4
Durham, NC
57.56
57
13
2
5
Boulder, CO
56.95
21
16
13
6
North Port, FL
56.77
4
37
129
7
Olympia, WA
56.46
32
1
88
8
San Jose, CA
55.52
5
113
7
9
San Luis Obispo, CA
55.18
9
11
41
10
Madison, WI
55.13
84
5
11
11
Honolulu, HI
54.82
7
71
12
12
Salisbury, MD
54.70
11
3
177
13
Washington DC
54.33
23
17
19
14
Portland, ME
53.86
17
35
22
15
Myrtle Beach, SC
53.66
8
20
181
16
Harrisburg, PA
52.39
50
24
24
17
Fort Collins, CO
52.11
34
19
80
18
Denver, CO
52.03
86
9
33
19
Akron, OH
51.64
55
10
69
20
Charleston, SC
51.62
37
55
30
21
Manchester, NH
51.49
47
22
58
22
Seattle, WA
51.44
19
101
15
23
Minneapolis, MN
51.22
48
26
28
24
Richmond, VA
50.56
24
46
40
25
Bridgeport, CT
50.52
25
83
8
26
Daphne, AL
50.50
31
12
171
27
Des Moines, IA
50.49
106
2
158
28
San Francisco, CA
50.42
6
172
4
29
Santa Rosa, CA
50.11
14
81
43
30
Raleigh, NC
50.08
45
42
56
31
Prescott Valley, AZ
49.92
3
118
193
32
Oxnard, CA
49.38
16
78
49
33
Asheville, NC
49.35
10
125
57
34
Bremerton, WA
49.22
22
52
108
35
Boston, MA
49.18
33
139
6
36
Colorado Springs, CO
49.18
95
7
141
37
Pittsburgh, PA
49.14
35
82
47
38
Portland, OR
49.03
58
96
14
39
Hartford, CT
49.02
62
36
16
40
Omaha, NE
49.00
87
25
37
41
St. Louis, MO
48.88
56
73
36
42
Lancaster, PA
48.80
46
48
74
43
Chattanooga, TN
48.79
43
53
122
44
Appleton, WI
48.78
41
30
128
45
Sioux Falls, SD
48.48
92
34
83
46
Salt Lake City, UT
48.42
125
23
25
47
Charlotte, NC
48.40
38
61
90
48
Allentown, PA
48.35
52
43
42
49
Crestview, FL
47.95
61
15
183
50
Cape Coral, FL
47.88
13
119
110
51
New Haven, CT
47.81
73
65
9
52
Austin, TX
47.76
123
40
48
53
San Diego, CA
47.73
27
103
29
54
Peoria, IL
47.60
66
27
91
55
Tucson, AZ
47.56
69
59
67
56
Green Bay, WI
47.33
80
33
92
57
Lexington, KY
47.28
94
79
31
58
Deltonah, FL
47.24
18
58
198
59
Reno, NV
47.08
44
67
117
60
Tyler, TX
47.07
127
28
99
61
Ogden, UT
47.07
101
8
160
62
Santa Cruz, CA
46.99
12
147
27
63
Atlanta, GA
46.97
54
100
60
64
York, PA
46.96
53
49
112
65
Palm Baye, FL
46.89
20
84
182
66
Boise City, ID
46.89
96
32
98
67
Grand Rapids, MI
46.89
140
39
55
68
Cincinnati, OH
46.77
71
74
63
69
Wilmington, NC
46.53
40
105
79
70
Canton, OH
46.52
100
29
131
71
Fargo, ND
46.49
154
21
71
72
Savannah, GA
46.37
107
63
59
73
Provo, UT
46.20
135
4
175
74
Norwich, CT
46.08
49
31
115
75
Roanoke, VA
46.05
28
123
46
76
Baltimore, MD
45.92
29
120
68
77
Philadelphia, PA
45.91
63
109
44
78
Nashville, TN
45.89
99
68
105
79
Anchorage, AK
45.87
136
87
86
80
Indianapolis, IN
45.73
119
44
95
81
Sacramento, CA
45.72
42
98
50
82
Trenton, NJ
45.67
70
110
18
83
Lincoln, NE
45.63
103
38
93
84
Port St. Lucie, FL
45.51
15
126
173
85
Albany, NY
45.48
60
62
38
86
Vallejo, CA
45.16
36
97
89
87
Louisville, KY
45.03
117
47
106
88
Worcester, MA
44.90
82
94
51
89
Virginia Beach, VA
44.90
83
70
64
90
Huntsville, AL
44.81
77
60
142
91
Chicago, IL
44.70
79
107
26
92
Kalamazoo, MI
44.57
149
64
70
93
Poughkeepsie, NY
44.47
90
54
45
94
Spokane, WA
44.35
113
51
111
95
Eugene, OR
44.29
68
108
81
96
Columbia, SC
44.22
105
91
104
97
Kansas City, MO
44.13
75
88
103
98
Phoenix, AZ
43.94
89
104
85
99
Jacksonville, FL
43.71
67
102
152
100
Salinas, CA
43.70
85
86
66
101
Little Rock, AR
43.63
144
80
61
102
Dallas, TX
43.55
130
90
97
103
Cleveland, OH
43.47
139
142
10
104
Greenville, SC
43.41
118
106
75
105
Lansing, MI
43.35
150
56
125
106
Rochester, NY
43.26
114
93
20
107
Cedar Rapids, IA
43.25
104
50
161
108
Winston, NC
43.23
91
116
73
109
Greeley, CO
43.15
141
41
162
110
Detroit, MI
43.15
72
122
116
111
Reading, PA
42.88
76
117
87
112
Fort Wayne, IN
42.52
152
45
168
113
Dayton, OH
42.43
111
95
127
114
Davenport, IA
42.37
110
77
139
115
Atlantic City, NJ
42.26
39
131
100
116
Fayetteville, AR
42.17
122
75
151
117
Santa Maria, CA
42.11
59
134
53
118
Evansville, IN
41.59
161
57
144
119
Knoxville, TN
41.58
74
138
149
120
Oklahoma City, OK
41.21
148
89
150
121
Milwaukee, WI
41.18
98
141
54
122
South Bend, IN
41.14
145
85
167
123
Hagerstown, MD
40.26
81
112
179
124
Columbus, OH
40.23
166
72
137
125
Ocala, FL
40.11
26
153
199
126
Birmingham, AL
39.94
65
159
107
127
Montgomery, AL
39.91
134
92
189
128
Rockford, IL
39.80
143
76
157
129
Pensacola, FL
39.44
133
121
153
130
New York, NY
39.32
51
184
5
131
Syracuse, NY
39.27
137
124
35
132
Killeen, TX
39.26
186
69
114
133
Lynchburg, VA
39.22
155
66
174
134
Buffalo, NY
38.98
128
128
39
135
Wichita, KS
38.67
97
135
163
136
Tallahassee, FL
38.65
147
132
134
137
Providence, RI
38.62
112
167
34
138
Los Angeles, CA
38.60
30
187
23
139
Kennewick, WA
38.45
151
127
123
140
Flint, MI
38.34
171
111
156
141
Orlando, FL
38.33
153
155
72
142
Tulsa, OK
38.31
174
99
169
143
Las Vegas, NV
38.31
121
146
135
144
Salem, OR
38.25
138
130
133
145
Duluth, MN
38.21
116
136
126
146
Erie, PA
37.91
126
137
154
147
Springfield, MA
37.88
115
162
62
148
Hickory, NC
37.71
93
140
194
149
Tampa, FL
37.66
102
174
77
150
Albuquerque, NM
37.59
146
157
65
151
Gainesville, FL
37.58
178
182
3
152
Huntington, WV
37.41
88
161
159
153
Toledo, OH
37.11
168
144
82
154
Scranton, PA
37.05
109
156
143
155
Jackson, MS
36.89
175
148
76
156
Amarillo, TX
36.78
142
149
176
157
Kingsport, TN
36.67
158
133
190
158
Springfield, MO
36.65
164
129
165
159
Youngstown, OH
36.63
78
158
188
160
Houston, TX
35.66
179
164
52
161
Binghamton, NY
35.66
162
114
124
162
Charleston, WV
34.97
132
168
138
163
San Antonio, TX
34.88
184
152
94
164
Waco, TX
34.80
176
143
170
165
Greensboro, NC
34.68
108
175
148
166
Augusta, GA
34.56
120
176
145
167
New Orleans, LA
34.48
172
181
21
168
Utica, NY
34.17
167
115
155
169
Memphis, TN
34.17
182
160
130
170
Lubbock, TX
33.95
183
166
84
171
Lakeland, FL
33.94
124
173
178
172
Stockton, CA
33.82
156
154
146
173
Riverside, CA
33.53
129
169
121
174
Macon, GA
33.03
163
180
101
175
Spartanburg, SC
32.77
131
177
185
176
Longview, TX
31.85
185
150
191
177
Miami, FL
31.74
157
192
17
178
Baton Rouge, LA
31.69
181
170
136
179
College Station, TX
30.49
193
165
96
180
Tuscaloosa, AL
30.35
165
179
180
181
Clarksville, TN
30.17
189
145
200
182
Mobile, AL
29.95
170
185
113
183
Shreveport, LA
29.22
177
191
78
184
Fayetteville, NC
28.42
187
171
184
185
Fort Smith, AR
27.72
159
186
196
186
Beaumont, TX
27.36
197
151
195
187
Gulfport, MS
27.33
173
183
197
188
Fresno, CA
26.58
188
178
119
189
Corpus Christi, TX
26.09
192
189
102
190
Modesto, CA
26.05
169
190
147
191
Visalia, CA
25.28
196
163
166
192
Columbus, GA
24.08
160
193
192
193
Lafayette, LA
23.64
180
196
109
194
Bakersfield, CA
21.84
190
188
186
195
Merced, CA
18.10
191
194
187
196
Yakima, WA
17.32
195
195
164
197
El Paso, TX
8.56
194
198
118
198
McAllen, TX
3.30
200
197
132
199
Brownsville, TX
2.10
198
199
140
200
Laredo, TX
-3.32
199
200
172
Tips for a Happy Retirement
You’ve worked hard, now it’s time to enjoy yourself! These smart strategies can help you find happiness in retirement.
• Create a budget. You may have fewer expenses when you’re retired, but you’ll still need a roadmap for managing them. This is where retirement planning and a budget come in handy. If you are already retired, create a budget that works well for your retirement income. If retirement is still in the future, map out a plan to see how much you’ll need to save to be properly prepared.
• Keep tabs on your retirement savings. Don’t forget to check on your retirement savings regularly to ensure that you’re on track financially. And, of course, make sure you have retirement savings accounts like a 401(k) or a traditional or Roth IRA to help you reach your goal.
Don’t yet have a retirement account? Learn how to set up your own retirement account.
• Prioritize health and wellness. To be at your best, strongest, and happiest in retirement, prioritize your physical and mental health with regular exercise, a balanced diet, and lots of social interaction.
• Pursue your passions. Don’t let retirement slow you down. You can pursue your favorite hobbies, work on fulfilling and meeting your top ambitions and challenges, and do the activities you’ve always wanted to try now that you have the time and freedom for them. When choosing among the best retirement cities, be sure to look for places that cater to your interests.
Methodology
To find the happiest cities for people to retire in the U.S., we looked at the 200 largest metropolitan statistical areas (MSAs) based on the U.S. Census Bureau’s 2022 population estimates for 13 ranking factors across three categories (Social, Finance, and Health).
We graded each factor on a 100-point scale, where 100 was the highest possible score. Each factor was weighted differently.
Socioeconomic Score Factors
• Community well-being
• Social well-being
• Comfort index*
• Percentage of population age 65 and over
• Percentage of art, recreation, and entertainment businesses
Financial Score Factors
• Housing & transportation
• Cost of living index*
• Median household income
• Percentage of people aged 65 and over living below poverty level
• Tax burden**
Health Score Factors
• Healthcare access
• Life expectancy
• Walk Score*
*Data represents city proper data (excluding surrounding metro). **Data represents state level data.
Sources: U.S Census Bureau, Sharecare Community Well-Being Index, Walk Score, Tax Foundation, County Health Rankings & Roadmaps, Sperling’s Best Places.
The Takeaway
When you’re ready to retire, choosing where to settle down is a big and important decision. Exploring our list of top 20 happiest places is a great place to start. You can look for cities that offer affordability, good access to healthcare, entertainment and cultural activities, and opportunities for making social and community connections.
And to ensure that your retirement is as happy and stress-free as possible, you’ll want to have your retirement savings in order. Contributing to your 401(k) or IRA can help you build the retirement nest egg you’ll need.
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Do you need health insurance? Did you know that there are many part-time jobs with health insurance that you may be able to apply for? These types of part-time jobs are great because they not only help you to make more income but they also give you benefits like health insurance. Health benefits are usually…
Do you need health insurance?
Did you know that there are many part-time jobs with health insurance that you may be able to apply for?
These types of part-time jobs are great because they not only help you to make more income but they also give you benefits like health insurance.
Health benefits are usually associated with full-time employment, but a growing number of companies give these perks to part-time employees as well. Companies know that in order to keep good employees, giving helpful benefits like health insurance helps them with this.
You may need a part-time job with health insurance for many different reasons, such as perhaps your full-time job doesn’t come with good health insurance, or maybe you are only looking for part-time hours to make extra money.
My husband worked at UPS for many years, mainly for the health insurance. And, so did many other people who worked there. The health insurance at UPS is one of the best I’ve ever seen, and it’s available to part-time workers.
And, you may be able to find a part-time job that comes with medical insurance like this too!
Key Takeaways
UPS is known for having many valuable benefits for their part-time workers, such as health insurance.
Starbucks is another place where you can get health insurance, even working part-time. After putting in an average of 20 hours a week over three months, you can get medical, dental, and vision plans.
There are many other jobs that give you health insurance as well and even other great benefits like tuition reimbursement and parental leave.
Best Part-Time Jobs With Health Insurance
Below are the best part-time jobs with health insurance coverage.
1. UPS
If you’re looking for a part-time job with health insurance, UPS can be a great choice. At UPS, even part-time employees can get health benefits.
This is probably one of the most popular jobs ever when it comes to getting great health insurance. UPS is a very popular choice for those who are looking for health insurance.
Like I said earlier, my husband worked at UPS for years, mainly for the health insurance. And, so did many other people that we know, such as many of our personal friends, his brother, our friend’s parents, and so many more people that we personally know.
Many of the part-time jobs at UPS are for package sorters and UPS truck loaders.
Part-time UPS workers get the same healthcare benefits as full-time workers. They don’t have to pay premiums, and there is low or no co-insurance and co-pays.
Plus, part-time employees at UPS earn an average of $20 per hour after 30 days. As a part-time employee at UPS, you’re promised at least 3.5 hours of work each day you’re scheduled.
There are also other benefits you can qualify for, such as you can get a pension when you retire, help paying for college, and paid time off for vacations and holidays.
Recommended reading: 26 Best Weekly Pay Jobs To Make Money Quick
2. Starbucks
If you’re looking for part-time work and need health insurance, Starbucks might be the place for you.
Starbucks gives health, dental, and vision insurance to all part-time workers who put in at least 20 hours per week on average after working 240 hours.
Starbucks also has a generous benefits package, such as dental care, a 401(k), vacation time, college tuition reimbursement, and more.
Another nice employee benefit is Starbucks’ parental leave – workers at Starbucks who are eligible and welcoming a new child can take time off and receive pay replacement through parental leave. Additionally, Starbucks gives Family Expansion Reimbursement, giving up to $10,000 for adoption, surrogacy, or intrauterine insemination for eligible partners.
3. REI
REI has a new medical plan called the REI Access Plan, which gives medical coverage to every employee who works at REI, even part-time employees.
The REI Access Plan gives medical coverage to employees after working for only three months, no matter how many hours they work (so, if you only work one day a week, you can qualify!). This plan is in addition to the existing health care options for employees who work an average of 20 or more hours per week over a 12-month period.
The health insurance coverage includes checkups for free with in-network doctors, mental health support, hospital care, and physical therapy. It also covers pharmacy costs and provides access to virtual healthcare through Teladoc.
4. National Guard
As a National Guard member, you get to serve your country and community, and you also have access to job benefits like health insurance.
You and your family can get low-cost health insurance through a plan called Tricare Reserve Select (TRS).
In 2023, the individual monthly health insurance plan cost $48.47, and family plans cost $239.69.
You’re also eligible for low-cost life insurance that pays up to $400,000.
National Guard members respond to emergencies (such as natural disasters), serve as law enforcement, and more. Guard members have about two days of drills each month and spend two weeks on annual training every year.
5. Costco
If you’re interested in a part-time job that includes health insurance, you might want to look into working at Costco.
There are many different kinds of jobs that you can find at Costco, such as cashier, baker, forklift driver, gas station attendant, member service assistant, stocker, and so much more.
Costco gives health insurance to part-time employees who work 23 or more hours each week.
Their health insurance comes with low out-of-pocket monthly premiums and co-pays. They provide medical, dental, and vision benefits that can be used for yourself and/or your family.
I know a few people who left their day job to work at Costco due to the good pay, nice benefits, and fun work environment. So, it can be a great one to look into!
Recommended reading: 20+ Best Jobs That Pay $20 An Hour Or More
6. Chipotle
At Chipotle, you can work part-time and still get health insurance. They understand that you might be studying, have another job, or need extra time for yourself. That’s why they offer flexible schedules.
If you join their team, even part-timers can sign up for health insurance. All Chipotle crew members are eligible for the Anthem Preventive Plus, Delta Dental PPO plan, and EyeMed PPO vision plan.
They also have 100% tuition coverage for select programs. You can learn about agriculture, technology, and business. If you’re into something else, they give up to $5,250 for other study areas.
Other helpful benefits from Chipotle include paid time off, 401(k) retirement savings plans, free meals, an annual bonus, a gym membership discount, and more.
7. Walmart
At Walmart, you can find part-time jobs that come with health insurance.
Part-time jobs with health insurance at Walmart include stocking shelves, unloading trucks, customer service, cashier, and more.
If you’re working at least 30 hours per week over a 60-day period, you can become eligible for coverage.
Once you meet the hours requirement, you can choose from different health plans. These plans are not just any plans; they include options for medical, dental, and vision coverage.
8. JPMorgan Chase
JPMorgan Chase gives health insurance to part-time employees, such as for entry-level jobs like being a bank teller or in customer service.
For example, as a part-time associate banker, you’ll be helping customers with their banking needs. You will be talking to them about their accounts and showing them how to use the bank’s products and services.
To get health insurance at JPMorgan Chase, you need to work at least 20 hours a week, and their benefits include medical, vision, and dental coverage.
9. Delta Airlines
If you’re looking for part-time work and need health insurance, you might want to find a job at Delta Airlines.
There are many different jobs at Delta Airlines that could fit your needs, even if you work part-time. These can include becoming a ticket agent, gate agent, customer service, and more.
They have multiple health plans that you may be interested in, plus dental and vision plans.
Delta also gives paid long-term disability coverage, optional short-term disability insurance, and company-paid basic life insurance.
10. Amazon
If you’re looking for a part-time job with health insurance, you may want to look for a job at Amazon.
Amazon is one of the largest companies in the world, so it makes sense that they would give good health insurance.
Amazon’s medical plans cover things like prescription drugs, emergency and hospital care, mental health, X-rays, and lab work.
There are no exclusions for pre-existing conditions in any of Amazon’s medical plans. They have many different plans, so it means that you can pick the one that fits you and your family the best. Plus, all plans cover 100% of preventive care.
The benefits available to you can vary based on how many hours you work each week and where you live. For example, if you are full-time or work 40 hours a week, you get one set of benefits. If you work between 30-39 hours or 20-29 hours, your benefits may be different. And if you’re in certain states, these standard benefits might not apply.
11. Lowes
At Lowe’s, you can find many jobs that could fit your schedule, and they offer both part-time and full-time positions.
Lowe’s gives affordable health insurance plans to both part-time and full-time workers. These plans cover medical, dental, and vision, and you can get low-cost prescription drugs after 30 days.
If you head to the Lowe’s worker’s benefits website here, you can actually see a preview of your different benefit options. I thought this was really handy. I clicked on “Prospective Lowe’s Associate” which then showed me their medical plan pricing. I typed in my zip code, and it showed me that there was one available medical plan in my area for a part-time Lowe’s Associate.
This plan started at $38.60 for Employee Only. For Employee + Children, the plan then costs $106.18. For Employee + Family, the cost is $152.52 each month. This medical plan includes an annual deductible of $0 and an out-of-pocket maximum of $9,100 for an individual plan or $18,200 for a family plan.
This platform also showed me pricing for their dental coverage, which is through Delta Dental. The pricing for this started at $9.60 per month for an Employee Only plan.
Other employee benefits from Lowe’s include off-the-job accident insurance, identity protection insurance, life insurance of $20,000, short-term disability insurance, 401(k), and an Employee Stock Purchase Plan (ESPP).
12. Ikea
If you’re considering a part-time job, Ikea is a place you might think about. Ikea gives health benefits to its part-time workers, and you get benefits if you work at least 20 hours a week.
IKEA’s health insurance is from Anthem, and many find the premiums reasonable. Besides health coverage, IKEA also offers dental, vision, and prescription coverage. Additionally, employees enjoy benefits like paid time off, parental leave, pet insurance, and income protection.
Some examples of part-time jobs with health insurance at Ikea include retail sales associate, customer service representative, forklift operator, and food service team member.
13. Whole Foods Market
If you’re looking for a part-time job that offers health insurance, Whole Foods Market might be a place to consider. To get health insurance at Whole Foods, part-time employees need to work at least 30 hours per week.
Examples of part-time jobs at Whole Foods include sales associate, customer service representative, cashier, and more.
14. Trader Joe’s
Trader Joe’s is a popular place to work, especially if you want a part-time job with health insurance.
Trader Joe’s has medical, dental, and vision plans for eligible crew members, and the company covers a big part of the cost, which starts as low as $25 per month.
They also have competitive pay, a retirement plan, up to a 20% store discount, paid time off, and more.
14. Staples
If you work part-time at Staples, you can get helpful health benefits. Staples provides medical, dental, and vision plans for both full-time and part-time employees.
You become eligible for these benefits if you work at least 15 hours a week.
All part-time associates are also eligible for other employee benefits like dental, vision, life, dependent life, accidental death, and short-term disability insurance coverage.
Some examples of part-time jobs at Staples include retail sales associate, cashier, stocker, and more.
15. Home Depot
Home Depot has a generous benefits package for its employees, which includes medical coverage, dental insurance, vision coverage, short-term disability, and more.
Part-time employees can qualify for benefits if they work an average of 16 hours per week or more during a 90-day period.
Some examples of part-time jobs at Home Depot include cashier, sales associate, customer service representative, stocker, and more.
Frequently Asked Questions About Part Time Jobs With Health Insurance
Below are answers to common questions about part-time jobs with health insurance.
Which jobs have the best health insurance? What companies have the best healthcare benefits?
Jobs at larger companies like UPS and Starbucks usually have better health insurance, even for part-time employees. They have good health insurance because they want to keep and attract good employees who will stay for a long time.
Remember to check if you need to maintain a certain number of working hours to keep your health insurance active as the requirements can change. Each company is different too, so make sure to look at the details for each job.
What companies give medical insurance to part-timers?
Companies such as UPS, Staples, and Chipotle are known for giving health insurance to part-time workers. Each company has its own criteria for eligibility, so you’ll need to check if you meet their requirements.
How can I find nearby jobs that give health benefits quickly?
You can start by seeing if any of the companies mentioned above have job openings near you.
Does Starbucks give health insurance to part time employees?
Yes, Starbucks gives part-time employees the option to enroll in health insurance plans, including medical, dental, and vision coverage, as long as they meet certain eligibility criteria (such as a minimum amount of hours worked each week).
Is health insurance through work worth it?
Yes, getting health insurance through your job can be a way to save money as well as get access to health insurance. My husband did this for years, and he had great health insurance that was extremely cheap.
Part-Time Jobs With Health Insurance – Summary
I hope you enjoyed this article about how to find part-time jobs with health insurance for medical care.
Health insurance isn’t only for full-time employees.
Yes, there are jobs that will give you medical insurance for working just part-time shifts!
Finding the right part-time job with health insurance and a nice benefits package is very possible across many different industries. Companies like UPS, Starbucks, and Costco are known for giving health and medical insurance to part-time workers.
This can be a game changer for you if you are balancing multiple jobs, attending school, or have family obligations that don’t allow for a full-time position.
What other part-time jobs come with health insurance? Leave a comment below and let me know!
An upcoming new year brings excitement for new opportunities, both big and small. The ability to reset your space by cleaning, reorganizing and decorating is one exciting venture renters can join. As you embark on the journey of refreshing your living space for the new year, don’t overlook the small yet impactful task of cleaning your baseboards— a simple step that can contribute to the overall cleanliness and aesthetic appeal of your home.
Cleaning baseboards is a simple task that not only enhances the visual appeal of your living space but also promotes a healthier indoor environment by eliminating dust and grime. We’ll help you kick off your new year on the cleanest note with this ultimate cleaning baseboards guide.
Materials needed
For those baseboards to sparkle, gather these materials. We recommend utilizing gloves as well, to protect your hands from any cleaning products.
Microfiber cloth
Sponge
All-purpose cleaner or Bucket of soapy water and white vinegar mixture (1:1 mixture)
Broom
Vacuum cleaner
Dryer sheets
Old toothbrush (optional)
Magic Eraser (optional)
How to clean baseboards: Step-by-step guide
Now that you’ve gathered your materials, it’s time to tackle those baseboards. Depending on your cleaning style, this guide is a little more meticulous; however, the satisfaction of seeing your baseboards restored will make for a worthwhile effort.
1. Remove any loose dirt
Take your broom and go over the baseboards to remove any accumulated dust or crumbs. You’ll go in for a deeper clean in the next steps, this is just to remove the loose layer of dust to get to the deeper grime. Once you’ve gone over your baseboards a few times with your broom, vacuum the surrounding floor area to clean the loosened grime.
2. Select your cleaning solution
You have a few options for this step, your selection boils down to what you have on hand. Depending on what room the baseboards you’re cleaning are in (some are dirtier than others), you may need extra strength cleaning solutions to fully remove dirt and grime, we recommend all-purpose cleaner for dirtier baseboards while soapy water and vinegar work better for standard dirt and grime.
If you have an all-purpose cleaner or cleaning wipes of any sort, you can utilize those for this step. If you’re using a spray cleaner, dilute it with a little water and utilize either a microfiber cloth or sponge for application. Wipe over the baseboards, scrubbing in circles over dirtier or grimier spots.
If you don’t have any all-purpose cleaner on hand, don’t worry. You can create a 1:1 solution of soapy water and white vinegar to work as your baseboard cleaner. Use a sponge to wipe over the baseboards, paying extra attention to any stained spots or caked-on dirt.
3. Fight tough spots with a Magic Eraser (optional)
Once you’ve done a base level of cleaning, with your cleaning method of choice, there may be spots that remain. These spots need a tougher agent to break through the dirt and grime. Use a Magic Eraser according to user instructions to scrub through these tough stains. Typically, dirtier baseboards are those that are in stain-prone rooms like entryways and kitchens.
If you don’t have this product on hand, you can utilize an old toothbrush or cotton swabs, dipped in your cleaning solution of choice, to scrub extra tough spots.
4. Dry your boards
When the boards are cleaned to your liking, take your microfiber cloth and swipe over your baseboards. This is an important step as it prevents any water damage from your baseboards.
5. Regularly maintain
Maintain clean baseboards by using a dryer sheet over them. Rubbing a dryer sheet across your baseboards prevents static which attracts dry dust. Utilizing dryer sheets is a simple way to ensure your hard work lasts.
Leave grimy baseboards behind
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Cleaning your baseboards is a chore that not only helps your home appear tidy but creates a better living environment by eliminating cumulated dust. A person’s surrounding environment is shown to impact their mental health and well-being, so a deep clean can ensure one heads into the new year with a refreshed and revitalized living space, setting the stage for a positive and organized start.
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Wesley is a Charlotte-based writer with a degree in Mass Communication from the University of South Carolina. Her background includes 6 years in non-profit communication and 4 years in editorial writing. She’s passionate about traveling, volunteering, cooking and drinking her morning iced coffee. When she’s not writing, you can find her relaxing with family or exploring Charlotte with her friends.
Although our early 20’s are an exciting era full of new-found freedom, there are a lot of ways that the choices we make in our early adulthood affect the trajectory of the next few decades. Occasionally, someone finds the right teachers, mentors and friends to really set them up well for their 20’s and 30’s, but often we look back after several years and wish there were things we’d known how to do differently. From finance strategies to mental health awareness, savvy knowledge can make all the difference as young adults take their first steps towards forging their futures. Below are the 20 surprising things everyone wishes they knew at age 21.
1. Find Someone Who Shares Your Values
Whether you’re dating, getting married, or just trying to find friends, finding people who share your values is crucial. Of course you’ll always have differences with the people around you, but if you share the same core values, like kindness, being fiscally responsible, etc., you’ll find it much easier to remain together.
One user shared, “Find someone who shares your values and wants the same things as you when finding a partner. Whatever that is, everyone else is a placeholder at best and a waste of time and energy at worst.”
Another user replied, “That’s why I’m not dating right now.”
2. Invest Money as Soon as You Can
Investing even a small amount early in your life will drastically change your ability to retire comfortably later. No amount is too small: open some type of retirement account and put in even just ten dollars a month. Bonus points if you can put in your bonuses from work, your tax return, and other cash that’s not part of your regular income!
One Redditor commented, “Invest money as soon as you’re able to while making sure you have enough money to survive on. The plan you may have for your life now may change. Be okay with that. My life is way different than I thought it would be. Stay physically active and eat healthy. Come 30s, it catches up to you if you stop being active and [don’t eat well].”
3. How Interest Rates Work
Interest rates work differently for you on different types of account; credit cards are different from loans, regular savings accounts are different from high-interest savings accounts.
One online user posted, “How interest rates work. What is a stock, and what to do with them. Impact of having children very early. Taxes. Keep making your dream a reality.”
4. How Precious Time Is
Time is one thing we’ll never get back once we give it away. That’s not to scare you; it’s not as if we should feel guilty for watching a movie we only slightly enjoyed. But time is a resource, and a really precious one. You can use time for social media, and if it’s relaxing to you that might be a good use of your hours. But don’t forget about relationships, education (even just learning hobbies counts!) and recreation that really refreshes you.
Another user added to the thread, “How precious time is.”
5. Everyone Has Their Own Issues: Do Not Expect Help
One user pointed out that, among other things, there won’t always be somebody who wants to listen to you vent or moan about your life, or to lend you money if that’s what you need. Plan ahead for yourself, don’t always assume your community will be your safety net.
One user broke down his own learnings and shared, “I wish I would have taken my credit seriously. Never stop being active; it greatly helps your mental and physical health. Learned a skill. I’m in IT now, but I should have been making way more at 35 if I had taken it seriously at 21.
“Who you choose as a partner matters a lot. Unless you have parents that love and have the means to help you, it’s just you against the world, and that’s okay. Everyone has their issues and do not expect help from anyone.”
Another user responded, “5 hit hard.”
6. Everything Is Going to Work Out Great
While you may have been launched into your 20s unprepared, wishing you knew a whole lot more than you did, don’t freak out. You know a lot more now. You’ve made it this far and you’re going to be ok.
“That regardless of how it looks right now, everything is going to work out great,” one user stated.
The OP replied, “My therapist reminds me of this during every session.”
7. Understand Monthly Installments
Lots of big-ticket items will offer you the chance to make several small payments instead of paying in one lump sum, but don’t assume it’s an easy way out of paying all at once. Double check how much the smaller payments actually add up to. Are they charging you interest, or hiking up the price just by making it look easier? Pay all at once if you can; it’ll save you some money, and help you to only buy things you can really afford.
Another commenter shared, “Okay, now take that monthly payment fee, multiply it by the number of months for the payment plan, and finally compare that result to the cost of them before the payment plan. Only had to learn that lesson once.”
8. Save as Much as You Can
One user commented, “Save as much money as you can; always split your checks into savings, bills, and for fun!! Just always those 3; just because you’re saving doesn’t mean you can’t have fun; limit yourself so you’re not spending so much money just on that. Putting these three categories together will save you a headache in the future. I started saving when I was 16 because I got my first job! By 20, I had saved 30k through work and financial aid.”
9. Find High-Paying Jobs
While everyone tells us in high school that we should follow our dreams, there’s a lot of wisdom in making sure you’ll be able to get a higher paying job too. If you put in several years with a higher paying job while you’re younger, imagine how much more freedom you could have to go after your hobbies when you have a good amount saved up?
One commenter added, “Find high-paying jobs that give you a 401k or retirement fund if you work full time. My job matches up to 4% of what I put in.”
10. Drinking Is Fun, but It’s Costly
We all know that the hard partying often starts in our 20’s, but how many of us have stopped to consider the cost of that? We’re not suggesting you don’t go out at all, but consider setting a budget for your evenings out, and plan how many times you go based on what you know you can afford.
One Redditor posted, “Drinking is fun, but it’s costly; I spent a lot of my money going out, and now that I’m 23 those ‘friends’ are nowhere to be found. Except for like 2.”
11. Find Friends That Will Stick With You
“Find friends that will stick with you no matter what. Watch out for jealous people who want your downfall. Not everyone will be happy with your achievements, and that’s okay, but don’t let them suck your energy and shine. Cut anyone that’s not making you a better person or pushing you to do better,” one user commented.
12. True Friends Will Always Be Honest
There will come a time in each our lives when when we need to be called out. It’s not comfortable or fun, but if you have friends who are willing to lovingly point out your flaws, consider yourself lucky. True friends will be honest with you and tell you when your habits have become hurtful. But true friends will also remain your friends afterwards; they’ll call you out and then stick around for the fallout and still love you on the other side.
One user shared, “True friends will always be honest even when it hurts … and they will be supportive and want what’s best for you. Don’t settle for less.”
13 Relationships Are Hard, but Dating Is Fun
One user posted, “Relationships [are hard], but dating is fun! As long as you are staying safe and setting boundaries. Relationships are fun when they work, and you feel fulfilled. Don’t settle for anything half-a-. If you spend 70% of your time unhappy and communicate that and nothing changes, it’s not worth it.”
14. Pick a Better College Degree
It’s true: your college degree can make or break your income earning potential. College isn’t necessary for everyone, but if you’re going to college, make sure that you’re choosing a really functional degree. If you want to get an education for fun, then be sure you can really afford to do that.
“Pick a better college degree. INVEST YOUR MONEY. Live frugally. Keep away from my dysfunctional family. Let my first boyfriend break up with me when he wanted to,” one user commented.
15. You Don’t Need to Do It All Tonight
Some of us need a serious pep-talk just to get up off our couches and get things done … and others need permission to just rest. So if that’s you, remember it’s ok not to get everything done at once. You may feel like you have to juggle everything, but a big key to “keeping it all together” is knowing which things you can drop and which things you actually need to get done.
One user shared, “You don’t need to do it all tonight.”
16. Forge Lots of Strong, Healthy Friendships
We’re made to live in community, and it shows. All of us will feel lonely from time to time, but having really strong friendships around you to support you in those times will help immensely. And sure, finding high-quality friends is really hard, but it will always pay off.
One Redditor highlighted friendship; “Forge as many strong, healthy friendships as possible.”
17. Take Care of Your Skin
Beyond taking care of your finances, your menta health and community, and your career, don’t forget your skin. Adjust your skin care to your climate and skin type, drink lots of water, and eat lots of whole foods. Those things together will probably make up ninety percent of a poppin’ skin care regime.
“I wish I’d taken better care of my skin. There’s a texture difference as you get older,” one commenter stated.
Another user replied, “Second this! Wearing sunscreen is always worth it (decades) later!”
18. Put Some Stock in Your Career
One user posted, “Wish I had taken more stock in my career. I wish I had taken college more seriously. I wish I hadn’t lost myself in another person so young. This destroyed my ability to have real relationships. Wish I had never stayed in upstate NY.”
19. How Fast You Become Yesterday’s News
Another Redditor shared, “How fast you forget about yesterday’s news. How eventually we all fade away and how nothing in this world lasts. So, all these fleeting pursuits of happiness lead to emptiness in the end. How quickly your body gives out on you as you age. How the older I am, the more I want to sleep as if I’m always catching up on a never-ending sleep debt. Or save money … lol.”
20. Bet on Apple Stock
One user commented, “To bet on Apple stock.in 1994, it was .24 cents a share. Sigh.”
Sure, it’s impossible to know which investments are going to really take off, but do yourself a favor and invest in what you can while you’re young. You might get a few duds, but hopefully there will be some winners among them. You have more ability to take chances while you’re young since you’re less likely to need the financial security yet, so take some time to learn what you’re doing or consult a professional.
What do you think of the things listed above? Share your thoughts down in the comments!
Source: Reddit.
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Phone interview questions often cover a lot of ground, from your professional motivations to your preferred style of being managed. Phone interviews also typically include several behavioral questions, too, in which you’re asked to recount specific experiences from your previous jobs.
They can seem intimidating, but phone interview questions are a lot less scary when you’ve rehearsed your answers and prepared stories that demonstrate your strength as a candidate.
Below, you’ll find 20 questions commonly asked during phone interviews, as well as advice on how to best answer them.
Phone interview questions
In preparing for your phone interview, set aside a few hours to reflect on how you’d answer each question. Write or type out your answers, then practice answering each question out loud.
Focus on speaking slowly and clearly, and run through your answers several times — that’ll help you eliminate filler words and speak comfortably when you’re talking to the interviewer.
When you’re on the phone interview, smile while speaking, recommends Robert Half, a human resources consulting firm. Even though the interviewer can’t see you, you’ll sound more enthusiastic and confident.
You can also keep a cheat sheet with key dates, sales figures or other information you want to easily access. Don’t overly rely on them, though, and be prepared to complete the interview without having to visit your notes.
Question about the company or position
1. What are your qualifications for this position?
If you’re asked this question, talk about your hard skills or competencies learned through training or education, says Heather Livingston, a career advisor at University of Phoenix.
Bring up any specific qualifications you have that were in the job description. Such qualifications might include knowledge of a specific software, coding language or experience working with a certain type of customer.
Be sure to mention any professional certificates or licenses relevant to the position, too, Livingston says. You can also mention any college courses or professional training you’ve completed that relate to the role.
2. Why do you want to work for us?
To effectively answer this question, you’ll need to research the company, Livingston says. Familiarize yourself with its history, mission statement, purpose and leadership.
Mention explicit parts of the company’s mission that you agree with, and how helping the company achieve that mission aligns with your overall career goals.
3. What do you know about the company?
Similar to the question above, you’ll need to research the company to answer this question. Spend some time on the company’s website and read the “About Us” page. You can also visit the company’s LinkedIn page and see if it’s recently been in the news.
You don’t need to memorize every part of the company’s history, but make sure you’re aware of any major events — such as mergers, acquisitions or product launches — and can speak confidently about the company’s main product or service.
4. What do you see as the biggest challenge coming into this role?
It can be tough to answer questions that require you to admit your vulnerabilities. But employers know that even the best employees inevitably struggle with one or more aspects of any job.
“The key is to be honest,” Livingston says.
There’s a fine line between being honest and undermining yourself as a candidate, though. Avoid mentioning challenges that relate to critical components of the job.
For example, if you struggle with time management, and the job requires you to manage multiple deadlines, sharing that struggle might give the hiring manager pause. Similarly, sharing that you aren’t detail oriented might not be a great idea if you’re interviewing for a data-focused role.
On that note: If several key parts of the job sound like significant challenges, do some soul searching and think about whether the job is a good fit for your skillset.
Also, offer solutions to any potential challenges you foresee, Livingston says. If you tell the interviewer you might find a particular software challenging, for example, share your plan for overcoming that challenge.
5. Why should we hire you?
This can be a tricky question to answer; you want to sell yourself, but don’t want to appear cocky or entitled. Write and practice an elevator pitch for yourself as a candidate, Jennifer Preston, an HR consultant, told U.S. News and World Report.
Highlight your work experience that most closely aligns with the role and your strongest skills related to the job. Talk about the job objectives you’re most excited to accomplish, and tell the interviewer how you’d achieve those goals.
You can also mention the little things that distinguish you from other candidates, too — whether that’s your passion for building relationships or your long-term career goals that make you a good fit for the company.
Behavioral questions
6. Tell me about a tough decision you’ve had to make in the past.
Behavioral questions are designed to predict a candidate’s future job performance, according to the Journal of Business Research. So, for this and the remaining behavioral questions, answer with a workplace anecdote that illustrates how you behave in certain situations.
Think about difficult decisions you’ve made on the job. Have you ever been asked to mislead a customer? Has a manager ever acted inappropriately, leaving you to decide whether to report them? Share a story that shows your integrity, work ethic or another quality that makes you a desirable employee.
7. Tell me about a time you failed.
This question isn’t meant to highlight your failures or mistakes. Instead, it’s a chance for the interviewer to see whether you learn from your mistakes, Livingston says.
“Failure is how we learn. And good employers, good bosses and good managers know this,” Livingston says. “Nobody’s perfect.”
Don’t be the candidate whose biggest failure is that they care too much. Be honest and candid, and talk about a genuine error you made on the job.
Avoid dwelling on the mistake itself — or the panic and consequences that followed — and instead emphasize the insights you gained, and how you grew from the experience, per the Harvard Business Review.
8. Tell me about a time you didn’t get along with a coworker or colleague.
The interviewer knows that nobody gets along with every person they encounter. They’re trying to see if you’re able to work with people you don’t particularly like, Livington says.
Don’t spend too much time explaining why you disliked a particular colleague. Focus on how you were able to put your differences aside and accomplish the task at hand.
9. Tell me about a time you had to work under pressure or stress.
Can you handle the heat, or do you collapse under pressure? That’s what the interviewer is trying to determine.
Talk about a time when you worked under tight deadlines or external stress. Specifically list the ways you handled that stress, whether it was by staying organized, building small mental health breaks into your day or eating well and getting plenty of sleep during busy weeks.
10. Tell me about a time when you took initiative.
Finally, an opportunity for a positive story! Share an instance in which you proactively completed a task or contributed to a project — ideally, without being instructed by your manager — that benefited your employer or made things easier for your team.
Work style questions
11. Do you prefer working on a team or alone?
There’s no right or wrong answer to this question. But given that most jobs involve some form of collaboration, your answer should make it clear that you’re able to work on teams, according to the Harvard Business Review.
You can also list the instances in which you prefer working alone or collaboratively, recommends the Harvard Business Review. For example, you could say that you love brainstorming ideas and developing sales pitches with your colleagues, but enjoy the freedom to work independently when on a deadline or during certain chunks of the day.
12. How do you manage stress to avoid burnout?
The interviewer isn’t looking for a specific method of stress management; they’re just making sure you know how to handle stress and won’t crumble under tight deadlines.
Share a work experience that illustrates how you effectively manage stress, recommends the Harvard Business Review. Feel free to get specific: If you utilize tools like meditation, journaling or morning runs to manage day-to-day stresses, say that.
13. How would people you’ve worked with describe you?
To effectively answer this question, first consider the qualities that might make someone successful in the role you’re interviewing for.
If the job requires a lot of collaboration, for example, say that your coworkers would describe you as communicative, accountable and a team player. If the job involves number-crunching, you could say that your colleagues would call you detail-oriented and conscientious. Think of past experiences you can mention that illustrate those qualities in action.
You can also use this question to highlight a few of your unique characteristics that aren’t directly tied to the role. Knowing that your coworkers would describe you as personable or funny, for example, can paint a more well-rounded picture of you as an employee.
14. What kind of management style works well for you?
Like many of these questions, you’ll want to answer honestly while keeping things relatively broad. Make it clear that you can work effectively under any manager, according to multiple career experts.
For example, instead of saying, “I prefer to work under managers with a hands-off leadership style, and can’t work well if my boss is always looking over my shoulder,” you could say, “While I prefer a hands-off managerial style, I’ve worked well with plenty of supervisors who prefer frequent check-ins and close collaboration.”
15. What are you passionate about? What motivates you?
Are you externally motivated by rewards, growth opportunities or bonuses? Or are you intrinsically motivated by doing work you believe in? Reflect on what motivates you in the workplace and honestly answer the question. You want your employer to understand what motivates you, according to BetterUp, a behavioral career coaching company.
To kickstart your reflecting, here are some potential motivators:
Promotions and leadership opportunities.
Contributing to a team.
Solving problems for customers and clients.
Learning new things.
Developing certain professional skills.
Making a difference.
“You can be passionate about things in your personal life, but whatever this answer is should show relevance to how it will enhance your success at this position in this company,” Livingston says.
16. What is your experience with remote work?
This question may not be relevant to you, depending on the job you’re interviewing for. But if you’re interviewing for a remote role, the employer may want to know if you can effectively manage your time and responsibilities.
Describe your experience with remote work — or lack of experience, if you’ve never worked from home — and make it clear that you can perform the job’s functions without reporting to an office or workplace.
Logistical questions
17. Are you currently employed, and why are you thinking about leaving your current job (or why did you leave your previous job)?
This can feel like a tricky question to answer. The key is to answer honestly without getting into too much detail. Saying that you’re looking for a job that better aligns with your goals, values and growth plans is typically a safe bet, Livingston says. Be prepared to talk about those goals and values, as the interviewer may ask follow-up questions about them.
Don’t badmouth anyone from your previous employer, though. It’s an unprofessional look. If you quit your job (or are planning to leave) because you don’t get along with your manager or another coworker, keep things broad, Livingston says.
“Say something very general to the effect of having different values and different goals,” Livingston says. “That way, you’re not saying something bad about the previous employer or manager. You never want to do that.”
18. Are you interviewing with other companies?
Most candidates in the job market are applying for and interviewing with multiple companies. If you’re interviewing with other companies, you should feel comfortable sharing that, Livingston says. You don’t need to mention which companies or roles you’re interviewing for, though.
Also, be sure to emphasize your excitement for the role you’re discussing with the interviewer. You can say something like, “At this time, I am interviewing for other positions, but this is the role that best aligns with my interests and career goals.”
19. What salary range are you looking for?
There are a few ways you can answer this question.
First, you can provide an ideal salary range. To avoid giving a range that’s unrealistically high (or lower than you could get), research salaries for similar positions in your industry and city. Then, provide a salary range with around $10,000 of wiggle room, Livingston says. If your ideal salary is $75,000, tell the interviewer you’re looking for compensation between $75,000 and $85,000.
If you’d like to buy some time before sharing an ideal salary, another option is telling the interviewer that you’d like more information on the role, according to U.S. News & World Report.
You could say something like this: “Until I learn more about the job and its responsibilities, I’d rather not decide on a fair salary range. Could we discuss compensation at a later date, perhaps after I’ve spoken with other members of the team?”
When you do share an ideal salary range, ask for more money than you’re currently making. Changing jobs is often an effective way to significantly increase your salary.
Half of the American workers who switched jobs between April 2021 and March 2022 saw their wages increase 9.7%, according to a July 2022 Pew Research Center report. Meanwhile, the median worker who stayed in their job over that same period saw their wages fall 1.7%.
20. When can you start working?
Ideally, you want to give your interviewer a firm date. But if you’d have to submit a two weeks’ notice at your current job, simply tell the interviewer that.
Say that, out of respect for your employer, you’d like to help transition your responsibilities and complete any outstanding tasks before your departure. In most cases, the new employer will be fine with figuring out a start date later in the interview process.
Each of us has wondered whether the grass is greener on the other side from time to time, but married people and parents of young kiddos especially seem to struggle. So it’s important to ask: is youth and singleness all it’s cracked up to be, or will the challenge of fighting for your marriage and parenting young children be the investment that really pays off?
Single life has its ups and downs—moments of joy, raw happiness, intense loneliness, sadness and everything in between. But it’s ultimately up to us as individuals to find contentment with our circumstances or strive for bigger and better things. Below are 15 stories from other single people about what real singleness looks like without attachment, and whether it’s happier over all.
1. I’d Like Someone to Share Things With
One benefit of marriage that the married ones often forget about is companionship. Sure, the other elements of marriage are good and necessary, but there’s something deeply special about coming home from a really hard day at work and having somebody you can talk to about it. Or coming home after getting a promotion and having someone special to share it with—without having to search your contacts for whom you’ll text first. Is that camaraderie worth trading for the freedom to do what you want, when you want, without coordinating with anyone else? Well, maybe.
One user shared, “30M if it’s relevant. It’d be nice to find someone to share stuff with, and all that … but being solo and only having myself in my own way when it comes to doing things is great. I haven’t dated anyone in about five years. The prospect of trying to find someone I can tolerate, that also wants what I want (being childfree is a b-) feels impossible. I also don’t know if I even have the capacity to care anymore. I’m socially inept [as heck], so I’ve only really tried the online route. Until I finally decide to give a s-, I have my two cats that can bug me all they like.”
Another user added, “I’m the exact same age, haven’t dated since I was like 26 and love my cat, he’s my dude! Also, I don’t want kids, not because I hate them or anything; I just don’t think it’s for me. I don’t get the whole peopling thing either. Just realized I have liked travelling for the past couple of years, so I started being an OTR trucker. It’s pretty cool for guys like us if you ask me. I drove through the Grand Canyon the utter day, and it was f- beautiful, my guy.”
2 I’m Just a Very Touch-Oriented Person
Pets, throw blankets and soft pillows are the hugs of the home-alone world. Now don’t misunderstand us; there’s something really super special about cuddling with your pets. (Imagine all that understanding and love without any of the backtalk or arguments!) But being touch-starved is a real thing. Whether everyone is willing to trade in their singleness for someone to come home to, and to hug just depends on the person though.
One Redditor posted, “Nope. It’s not the relationship factor. I’m just a very touch-oriented person. Not being able to touch someone just hurts. I want to touch someone, but I want them actually to like me.”
One user replied, “Oh my god, it’s the touch, for sure. It’s so unbelievably easy to go literal months without being touched by a human being. I’m so touch-starved, but there’s no outlet for it in society anywhere except relationships.”
3. We Expected a Fairytale
One reason so many people are shy of commitment to another individual for the rest of their lives is that they’ve grown up on the fairytales with the magical endings, and then they’ve been sucker-punched by the reality of struggling marriages, and the hard work that relationships require. It’s enough to make anyone shy of marriage. It’s true: marriages take a lot of effort and forgiveness. There’s a lot of joy to be found in loving and sacrificing for another person, but it’s not going to be a walk in the park, and you have to know that before you choose it.
“Yeah, we all pictured a Disney movie and then had to deal with reality. Very tired of this narrative with a House, a Spouse, and a couple of kids = endless happiness,” commented one user.
One user replied, “I think, in general, we struggle with the myth of ‘if I get to this state, I’ll have happiness .’ You get there, and you want something else. Happiness is a process/journey, not a destination. You can have the nicest house, the best spouse, great kids, go on great vacations, fancy cars, etc., and be f- miserable.”
4. I’m Extremely Lonely
Regardless of whether you’re hoping to get married, all of us were designed to live in some sort of community, with some sort of friendship around us. And sometimes, that’s really hard to find outside of family.
One user shared, “No, I’m extremely lonely.”
One user stated, “Thank you for saying what most of us think. I have my parents as a support system, but if I didn’t have them, I would literally be on the street, mostly by choice but also to better survive financially. I’ve been in a relationship most of my adult life, and even though I was the codependent one, I always had things put together and looking back, I don’t even know how I did it. I am finally setting boundaries and knowing my worth, and I’ve never felt so lonely. Then I try to put myself out there, and guys love my personality but don’t find me physically attractive, and I’m just throwing my hands up like apparently I can’t f- play this game anymore.”
5 Not a Fan of the “Single and Happy” Mantra Anymore
Ultimately, the reality is that happiness isn’t tied to marriage or singleness. Your happiness is tied to you. Your mental health, your ability to choose what brings you joy, and your ability to find joy or contentment even when things don’t work out well for you are the real factors that will determine your satisfaction with life, regardless of whether you marry or not.
One Redditor posted, “I’m not really a fan anymore of the whole ‘single and happy’ mantra, like being single is just a state of being, happiness isn’t tied to happy with it. Like you can be in a relationship and be miserable, too, you know what I mean?
“For someone who’s never been in a relationship? Am I single and happy? No. Am I single and miserable? No. I’m just single. It’s just the state I’m in.”
However, one user responded, “That’s why it’s called single AND happy. The conjunction ‘and’ allows one to describe two states of being.”
6. I’m Not Good at Spotting Red Flags in People
Marriage is a serious step, and your spouse isn’t someone you want to be mistaken about later on. If you’re not able to find somebody who loves, respects and enjoys you, then yeah, the goal of marriage should probably take a back seat for a while.
“Most of the relationships I’ve had, I’ve either been cheated on, abused, or both. I’ve had partners who take endlessly and never give. My last relationship was really terrible, and he mistreated me horribly. I have accepted that I’m just not good at spotting red flags in people, and I guess I’m not a great judge of character, so for my own safety and sanity, I need to be alone. Being alone is better than being with someone who actively chooses to mistreat you and doesn’t view you as a partner but rather a domestic servant.
“I wish my life would have turned out differently because I’d like to know what it feels like to be loved. But it’s not in the cards for me. Other than that, I try to be as happy as I can. I have a lot of hobbies and don’t often get bored or lonely. I’m certainly happier not being abused,” shared one Redditor.
7. Don’t Want to Change Who I Am Anymore
An online user said, “I could have written this. I worked on my codependent tendencies, but I don’t want to change who I am anymore. I like that I’m easygoing and kind. But I realized that most people are not, and I end up being taken advantage of endlessly, so I decided it’s better to be alone.
“In answer to the question, I AM happy. It’s not because I’m single or despite it. I have been happy in relationships and out of them. Happiness is more about being at peace with yourself, aligning with your values, and having a purpose. I have all those things with or without a partner. Looking for one felt like an exercise in futility, so I stopped and just started living my life. And I love it.”
8. Sometimes Happy, Many Times Lonely
Whether you’re touch oriented, want somebody to talk to, or just wish there were somebody to come home to, another person present in the house—marriage can be hugely satisfying. Loneliness is nearing epidemic proportions in the US these days, and it’s an ache that never fully goes away without a strong community of family or friends around you. To be fair, there are lonely marriages as well, and many people with happy marriages and strong family and friend relationships feel lonely from time to time. But the feelings are likely to be less pervasive with a spouse or even roommates in your life.
One user commented, “Sometimes happy, many times lonely.”
9. Would Rather Want Something I’ll Never Have Than Have Something I Never Wanted
“My grandma used to say ‘I would rather go through life wanting something that I could never have rather than having something I never wanted.’
“We have the most significant single population that we have ever had. At least, we live in a time when we have a choice. Many of the women in my family were almost guilted into marriage,” one user added.
10. I’m Solely Responsible for Everything
One user shared, “No, the way I see it, even if you ignore the mental health aspects of isolation, it’s made my life MUCH harder. I’m solely responsible for paying for and doing everything on my own. I have no feedback from others on any of the decisions I made. Pretty much no one knows where I am or what I’m doing. My life feels sort of meaningless and without connection as a result. I’d say it’s about as damaging to my overall quality of life as being broke and unemployed, and it’s made me much lazier and more pessimistic as a person as a result.”
11. Trying to Be Happy on My Own
One user said, “I’m trying to be happy alone. However, there are a few things I know for sure:
“Humans are wired for connection (romantic and platonic). Successful mating is the single biggest biological driver we have. Our society generally reinforces the idea that we need a partner to be whole and happy.
“I have accepted that I will never be the happiest version of myself without the right long-term romantic relationship. However, I’m still pretty happy being single. I’m glad I can say so, as this has prevented me from marrying the wrong person several times.
“I’d much rather be single and a little lonely than coupled up with someone that I’m not madly in love with.”
12. Become a Cat Dad
Another user posted, “I’ve become a cat dad. The relationships I’ve tried can’t handle my work schedule for one reason or another. I’d love for a companion, but video games keep me happy enough.”
As much as we value human connection, it’s important to have good boundaries with unhealthy people, and to fill those needs for connection in ways that nurture you. For example, with cats.
13. I Have Good and Bad Days
One Redditor added, “I would say I have good and bad days. I’m a 30-year-old, single woman who hasn’t dated anyone in over 9 years. I have wanted to, but it never seems to work out. The times I have shown interest in someone, it wasn’t mutual and vice versa. I would love to get married and have kids one day, but in the dating culture of today, it seems harder and harder to believe it can happen.”
14. Not Comfortable Settling Down
“I’m more comfortable in my off-and-on relationships rather than settling down yk, but my social anxiety keeps me from seeking out new relationships, so idk. It certainly is less stressful, as some people might say, because you don’t have to worry about keeping tabs on another person, or trying to focus on their happiness as well as your own. But sometimes loneliness seems overwhelming, but there are other things you can do to overcome it rather than thinking that happiness can only come from relationships,” stated one user.
15. I Am Responsible for My Own Happiness
One user shared his brightness and posted, “Yes. I am responsible for my happiness whether it be with or without a partner.”
It’s true: ultimately, even the glow of a new romantic relationship will wear off, and you’ll get into fights with the spouse you love more than anyone else in the world. So whether you’re married or single, perfectly content or wishing things were different, remember that joy get to choose how you react to your own situation, and you can make the best of it wherever your path lies.
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Source: Reddit.
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With summer comes backyard barbecues, friend hangouts and enjoying the warm weather after a long time inside. Sure, you can hire a landscaping designer to turn your yard into an oasis, but it’s easier than you think to do it on your own with these helpful backyard oasis ideas.
Transform your backyard into a place that you go to unwind and relax after a long day at work with these 16 backyard oasis ideas.
1. Add a hammock for lounging
What’s the best part of a vacation? It’s often getting to lay down on a hammock and read your latest book or take a nap during your time off. Well, bring this to your backyard to enjoy every day.
You can tie up the hammock to trees or get a free-standing one. Make sure you place it in the shade for a cooler nap and place a mosquito candle nearby.
2. Build a sitting area around a fire pit
Summer is synonymous with backyard fires, cool evenings and, of course, s’mores. Create a nice sitting area with a few outdoor chairs and side tables. Then place a fire pit in the middle — an in-ground fire pit or a free-standing wood one. You can also build one yourself.
Since you’ll get a lot of use out of a fire pit, this backyard oasis idea will become a fixture for your outdoor experience. Just make sure you stock up on marshmallows!
3. Take a dip in a stock tank pool
Stock tank pools have become a popular choice for those without the option of having an in-ground pool. In fact, stock tanks are one of the most popular backyard oasis ideas. You can even build a small deck around them if you need a few steps to reach the top.
During your hot days of summer, you’ll be glad you have this opportunity to cool off.
4. Setup for a backyard movie night
Popcorn, lots of picnic blankets and friends — one favorite backyard oasis idea is watching a movie in the backyard. Movie nights like this are what summers are perfect for.
You can use a white sheet or inflatable screen plus a small projector to show your favorite summer flick. The best part is that you can take it down once you’re done or leave it up for a weekly movie showing with your family.
5. Fire up an outdoor kitchen
Add a grill and a pizza oven to your outdoor kitchen set up for zero clean-up inside and all of the fun outside. You can have one built or you can create a setup on your own with a few carts. A nice outdoor kitchen will encourage you to spend more time outside too and having dinner while enjoying your backyard oasis.
6. String up bistro lights to create ambiance
Sure, large motion lights could provide light on your backyard as it gets dark. But bistro lights do that plus add to the ambiance. Bistro lights are easy to set up — you can add them to a trellis, use poles across your yard to hang them or attach them to your house.
For extra savings, pick up a string of lights that’s solar-powered and goes on instantly at dusk. Or add a smart switch so you can control them from your phone.
7. Swing from your favorite tree
If you have a large oak tree providing shade in your backyard, it is the perfect fit for a backyard swing. First, confirm that the tree is healthy enough for a swing with your arborist. Then you can add a swing, hammock chair or a weaved chair to the tallest branch and spend the afternoon enjoying it. This is a backyard oasis idea you’ll relish time and time again.
8. Get a hot tub
Hot tubs have a reputation for being expensive and highly cumbersome to set up. But like everything else on the market, more options come with time. While you can still get the classic hot tub set up, you can also get a blow-up (yes, you heard it right) hot tub that looks just as fancy.
For example, there are brands that offer portable hot tubs that are easy to carry and set up. They are also more affordable if you don’t want to commit to a more significant purchase.
9. Drink up at a tiki bar
If you host a lot of get-togethers with your friends, adding a backyard bar might make things a lot more seamless. Your friends can play bartender during the party without getting things dirty inside your house.
While the most popular theme for outdoor bars is tiki, you can definitely pick whatever style you choose. Have a backyard housewarming and tell your friends to stock the bar once you finish it.
10. Create a family-friendly game area
Add games that the whole family can play instead to your list of backyard oasis ideas. Corn hole, a giant chess board or bocce are great additions to a family-friendly game area in your backyard. You can have a dedicated space for all the games or just take them out when needed.
11. Brighten up your concrete flooring
A concrete patio can quickly become a little drab. Luckily, these days there are many options to brighten up your concrete flooring. With your landlord’s permission, you can add tile to bring some color into the space. If that’s not in your budget, you can stencil the floor instead.
Creating a faux stencil pattern on the concrete brings a little more interest to the space. Depending on how complex your design is, this is an easy, weekend budget-friendly project. Here’s some inspiration.
12. Get an eye-catching fountain
With so many new meditation apps on the market, it’s hard to find an excuse to not take 10 minutes to yourself and take a moment to tune out the outside. While the app helps, creating a space for meditating outside will help you stick to this habit and enjoy it a little more.
Add an eye-catching fountain to your garden to create the oasis you are looking for. From large to small fountains, stores sell some that you can easily set up on your own. It will help you focus on your practice and create a relaxing vibe.
13. Grow a lush vegetable garden
One of the best backyard oasis ideas will help you cultivate a green thumb. Many think that a garden should only include shrubs and flowers. However, making your landscape into an edible garden can also look beautiful. Studies have shown that gardening is good for your mental health.
Add a few garden beds where the sun shines the most and surround it with a pollinator flower garden. Add a trellis or an arch for berries to climb and adorn the space. You won’t want to leave this spot as you’ll spend time tending to the garden and enjoying the fruits of your labor.
14. Bring in a gazebo or awning
Having a little shade in the middle of summer can make all the difference in how often you’re out in your backyard oasis. You can create some shade and have a special reading nook just for you. You can add a retractable awning to the side of your home for convenience during group parties.
Or place a little gazebo far into your backyard oasis with some flower landscaping to add a little magic to the space. Gazebos come in all different sizes and colors, so you can find one that fits your style.
15. Gather your friends together around at a dining table
If you have space, adding a long dining table, paired with colorful pillows and beautiful flower arrangements, can genuinely change the vibe of your backyard oasis.
Prepare a feast for your friends and invite them to lounge in your home. Exchange stories as you reach for food and add a little music via a Bluetooth speaker — all under some bistro lights.
16. Plant an herb wall for cooking
There’s nothing better than fresh herbs available for your meals at all times. An herb wall can help you add visual interest to a blank wall in your backyard and give you that freshness that your food needs. Think fresh basil, thyme, rosemary and parsley — some of the easiest herbs to grow in your backyard oasis.
All you need is a vertical planter, soil and the herbs of your choice. If you’d like to make it yourself, here’s a quick DIY for a wood one.
Create an oasis in your backyard
No matter the size of your backyard, it has the potential to create a space for relaxation and sharing with your family. You can add a few of these backyard oasis ideas on your own while staying true to your budget. Adding a little magic to your yard is easier than you think.
Muriel Vega is an Atlanta-based journalist who writes about technology and its intersection with arts and culture. She’s worked on content for startups like Mailchimp, Patreon, Punchlist, Skillshare, Rent. and others. Muriel has also contributed to The Washington Post, Eater, DWELL, Outside Magazine, Atlanta Magazine, AIGA Eye on Design, Bitter Southerner and more.